LOL, but I know I'm right. Like you, I cannot believe this is actually a thing for conversation. I cannot fathom how otherwise intelligent people think you can somehow impart force on something without an equal/opposite reaction.
No one that I know of has said that.
We have said, over and over again, that the felt recoil is different than what the target experiences.
When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it--always.